The whole book is worthy of highlights. The chapters are about friendship, being a man, being a respectful wife, fighting, sexual assault and abuse, pornography, and other issues extremely relevant for marriage.
There were two major take aways for me personally. These will be different for everyone, I’m sure, and I would love to hear what spoke to your marriage the most.
For me, #1 take-away: They talk about 3 ways to do marriage: shoulder-to-shoulder, face-to-face, and back-to-back. Shoulder-to-shoulder is what you want, with lots of face-to-face in there. It is so easy to neglect face-to-face and do shoulder-to-shoulder, working beside each other in life, ministry, kids, household, etc..
The other take away was the last chapter on Reverse Engineering your marriage. It is revolutionary and has already helped my good marriage in great ways. It is basically living intentionally in your marriage, deciding what you want your lives and marriage to look like in 2, 5, 10 years and writing that down. Then working toward those goals in your daily decisions and habits. Not letting life happen to your marriage, but being in charge of the direction your marriage takes. Preventative medicine vs. antibiotics and surgery.
I hope that every single person, married or desiring to be married, reads this book.
It is different in many ways than the other marriage book I recently reviewed and recommended, “What Did You Expect?” by Paul Tripp. Both are incredible with differing approaches and both are my go-to recommended marriage books.
Mark Driscoll has also taught through the chapters in a recent sermon series at his church in Seattle. Go to Mars Hill’s website to listen and watch.